Why are modern men such layabouts? It’s simple. When the family declines, men decline.
Men who are disassociated from family life soon become de-motivated, shiftless and underachieving.
Fatherless child is rootless and drifting
I’ve known men with severe self-esteem problems. Invariably their fathers told them they were stupid or no good. What the father says about the child — especially the son — remains a potent force in the child’s life. If the father is no good, it’s bad, but if there is no father or a totally disengaged father – the child is rootless and drifting. He or she does not have the tools in their toolbox to know how to deal with the world. They’ve got pieces missing. The confusion is occurring even about own sex and the homosexuality spreads.
Decline of the family and especially the crisis in masculinity and fatherhood are desperate gaps in our social and familial infrastructure.
New regressive, primitive form of family structure
As the traditional family disintegrates, what we are seeing is the development of supposedly new forms of family life. They are a regression to a more primitive and barbaric form of family structure.
There are two trends that do not bode well for the future: matriarchy and polygamy.
Single mother matriarchy
With the rise of the single mother family, we are seeing a form of matriarchy develop.
In many homes women control the wealth, guard the home, rear the children and provide for the family. As new generations of single mothers bear children, the matriarchal structure extends to the grandmother and great-grandmother.
Modern matriarchal tribe
I lived in England for 25 years and during that time saw how the state (by providing everything to single teen mothers) created the new matriarchy. A girl who became pregnant at 15 was given an apartment and everything necessary for the child. If she married she lost many of the benefits, so it was to her advantage to remain a single mother.
By the time she was 30 she was a grandmother, for her daughters had continued the pattern. At 45 she was a great-grandmother and the three generations lived in close proximity amongst the underclass in Britain like a modern matriarchal tribe.
The men roamed about like hunter-gatherers
…living off unemployment checks or casual labor, spending their time in sports and pastimes while the women (looked after by the state) controlled the home. The men either lived with their mothers or their girlfriends — often serially. They had no reason to marry, no reason to get a permanent job, no reason to “get ahead.”
Not limited to underclass
While this was characteristic of the underclass it would be wrong to limit it to the underclass. Through easy no-fault divorce, cohabitation and the decline of marriage, the new matriarchy also existed within the middle and upper classes.
There too, the men were kicked out through divorce. The women claimed the wealth, controlled the family and the men were relegated to roaming about living alone or living with a series of girlfriends or new wives. Families with stepchildren and half children abounded — almost always with the women in charge.
This sort of matriarchy is not an advance. The men resent being excluded by the women, the women eventually resent having to do everything. The children are left to fend for themselves.
After approved same-sex marriage, Hello Polygamy!
The other alternative that we will see develop before long is polygamy. There will be plenty of utilitarian arguments for polygamy and the law (once it has approved same-sex marriages) will not be able to hold back the so called “advance” that polygamy offers. Muslim immigrants will create this parallel reality in the liberal West.
Many women will turn away from the de facto and accept its opposite: polygamy. Rather than do everything they will join a harem of women reliant on the one man who does and decides everything.
Polygamy will set back women’s rights and self-esteem, locking them into a relationship with a man which must be abusive because (when faced with a tribe of pregnant women who can’t support themselves) he will be the one in charge. The woman will become a second-class citizen, valued only for her childbearing capability, like the roaming stud is valued in statist matriarchy only for the fact that he can give the girl another baby.
Forward to the past
Every society that has advanced and moved forward historically has moved beyond matriarchy and polygamy. This must be so because matriarchy demeans men and polygamy demeans women. Only in monogamy are man and woman ideally treated as equals.
The true advancement for humanity was the gradual predominance of not only monogamy, but the Christian ideal of monogamy. It was only Christianity that exalted the union of man and woman to such a high status.
The Romans were aghast that Christian husbands and wives actually loved one another. That a woman was to be treated with respect and honor within a marriage was revolutionary.
That marriage should be for life (thus offering security and protection to the woman) was revolutionary.
That the Christians loaded marriage with theological significance, making it a sacrament and the crucible whereby the soul’s salvation was forged, was a radical advance and innovation.
That marriage signified the union between God and humanity was an astounding advance in human social and self-understanding.
We have chosen this regression
…to a more primitive and unenlightened form of family life. The fruit of it will be a society that drifts corporately into the same attitude of the male within matriarchy and the female within polygamy: a society with low self-esteem, lack of aspiration and low accomplishment.
It will be a society of the chronically dependent, and when there is a population that is chronically dependent there must always be a tyrant who they are happy to have rule over them.